Starting a garden.

As my family starts its own veggie garden for the first time, we know we are going to need record keeping for future endeavors.

Our book of choice is The Cook's Garden by Shepherd and Ellen Ogden.

We're located in Sedro-Woolley, WA.

Next post will include our square footage and plans for planting.

Hardcore Fathering, Part 1

For the past couple of months, I have been the daytime caregiver for my son, Alastair. He is coming up on a year old. The following events took place mid-March, so he was about 11 months old.

It was early on a Saturday and I was driving my Subaru Forrester over the border to Vancouver, BC to pick up Alastair's godparents: "Scott" and "Lisa." They are our good friends and live in Toronto, ON. They were spending their spring break with us here in Bellingham, WA. As my wife was away on a job interview, she did not accompany us on our trip.

As on most occasions, I was running late getting out the door. You gotta pack diapers, kiddie snacks, toys, comfort objects, my passport, my kid's birth certificate, throw a load of wash in the machine, remember where the @#$% you put the keys.... I got all this stuff ready the night before, but it always ends up thrown in weird places. This, as my loved ones will testify, is not a condition that I gained with fatherhood.

On the way there I remembered I forgot something at home: to urinate. As I approached the Canada-US border, I was wiggling in the seat. The border officer took care of that. After declaring my intentions, the officer asked if I had a notarized letter, signed by my wife stating it was legal to travel with my son. My need to pee was suddenly insignificant.

I was asked where Alastair's mother was? Why she wasn't here? When was she returning? Who was I picking up? The questions were repeated several times in various orders and wordings with my answers restated incorrectly. Was the officer trying to catch me in a lie, or was she just not listening? Was I smuggling a baby into Canada to sell to some childless couple? Finally, I was let through and promptly remembered I had to go.

Despite the delay, I made it to Vancouver Airport with time to spare. I had enough time to head to the restroom and go. My plan was to strap Alastair in the foldout changing table found in most bathrooms now-a-days, and void as quickly as possible. Usually, the table is located in a stall and has a strap, so I could probably keep a hand on him. This was unsafe, but when you gotta go....

I charged into stall only to find that there was no changing table in the men's room. There was a shelf near the sink that was large enough to change a baby, but it was nowhere near the urinals.

My image of Canada as home to an enlightened and sensitive populace was shattered.

So, in a frenzy of urgent improvisation and heightened senses, I took the following actions:

1. Find an official, but friendly looking employee. I searched for someone with a uniform and a walky-talky, but no badge or firearm. Someone old enough to be a grandparent (Alastair responds best to those types) but without a foot in the grave. Walking past the college student-staffed tourism booth and security guard, I found a Welcome Wagon-type wearing an orange vest and holding a walky. She had good hygiene and crow's feet around the eyes. Her name was Cheryl, she was a francophone, and had a granddaughter. Bulls-eye.
2. Present my plan. Stand outside the bathroom, holding my baby, while I take care of business. She was aprehensive at first, but I won her over. For the second time that day, I had to convince someone that I wasn't trying to abandon my son in a foreign country.
   
3. Convince my son I wasn't trying to abandon him in a foreign country. This was a delicate opperation, but Cheryl was on my side. She was charming and calming without being "googoogaga." Her accent lulled both me and Alastair into comfort. I handed him his favorite security object (a little plush saucepan rattle) said something reassuring, smiled, and dashed into the lav.
4. Urinate quickly without getting it all over my pants. Mission accomplished. Sorry Bruce, no details.
   
5. Reclaim my child. He was there looking conflicted. No smile. No frown. Cheryl looked happy. Ultimately, I think Alastair was safer with this person than strapped to a table. My faith in Canada was restored.

Five minutes later, Scott and Lisa touched down. They were all smiles and hugs. On our way out I thanked Cheryl. So, life didn't go as planned, but it turned out for the best.

I know what I learned from this experience, what about you?

Next post: Hardcore Fathering, Part 2--Guerrilla Diaper Changing.

Baby Backpacking

Had a great time yesterday. I strapped Alastair in a baby-carrying device and headed out to enjoy Bellingham in February. No sarcasm here; the last couple of weeks have been beautiful.

I've made a few friends in town who run businesses in town that are on our walking route. One is a hairdresser at a kinda retro barbershop. The owner has two big dogs that lick Alastair's fingers and he just cracks up.

Another is the proprietor of a fish and chips stand run out of a retired double-decker bus. Alastair ate his first grilled cheese sandwich here and the chowder is just fantastic.

So besides walking, what is there to do?

The guerrilla diaper change is always fun. Look for a top ten list (or submit your own) of the most improbable places diapers have been swapped.

New directions

One of my favorite bands, The Meters, titled their last album New Directions. The cover shows afro-ed sillouttes backlit by a giant traffic-direction arrow. Ironically, the release of this album marked the brake up of the band; scattered and feuding, wondering what might-have-been.

Today, I'm reporting a spilt.

I am glad to report my family and I are doing quite well. We live in the best city I have ever lived, Bellingham, WA. My son is leaving developmental milestones in the dust and a true joy to be around. My wife is happy with her teaching a research at a local university. I am continuing to lose weight (albeit slowly) and playing music. Our relationship as a married couple grows around our child, as well as in its own right.

This is also an exciting time to be in our country. You can find more of that discussion on someone else's blog.

February marks the first break in my career as a full-time educator. For most of the last 7 1/2 years, I have been employed (or sought to be employed) as a teacher. Generally, I enjoy teaching. Once or twice a year I poopoo the career. I say I'm not happy...I'd rather be cooking, or playing music, or going back to school for something completely different. Then, I get a breakthrough from a student or recognized by colleagues which causes me to fall off the wagon and rededicate myself to teaching.

Not this time. Since moving here, my efforts to teach leave much to be desired. I really loved tutoring adults in a GED program at the local junior college, but the money was short. I couldn't get the cheese up. There came a point when we looked at our budget and realized we could pay for daycare like we'd been for the last 3 months, or pay back our student loans.

Goddamn Sallie Mae. Actually, I could kiss her. Well, maybe not. I dunno.

February 1st marks the day I become a fulltime stay-at-home parent. I must say that I am looking forward to the opportunity of shaping a young mind (half of which contains my DNA). I'll keep you posted.

It's been too long

I'm sure others have made the same assertion.

Since my last post, life has changed quite a bit.
1. My wife, son, and I have moved over 2600 miles to Bellingham, Washington. This place is amazing. We live a 10 minute walk from the Pacific Ocean (in bay form) and can be at the top of the world after a 90 minute drive.

2. I am unemployed. This was convenient before Alastair was in daycare, but now is scary. Especially with the price of daycare.

3. As mentioned above, our nearly six-month old son has entered daycare yesterday. It was tough not to wonder about his well-being, but we trust the providers and I'm too busy filling out applications to dwell on it.

In addition to all the beautiful scenery and accessible outdoor activity, I've been catching up on my reading:

On the airplane I read Bones to Ashes by Kathy Reichs. Not bad. It kept me occupied, but got too seedy when some minors were exploited by the bad guys.

Upon my arrival, I finished Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? by Philip K. Dick. This was good. The shifting realities and multiple points of view were thoughtful. The ending was a little weak. Maybe the fallout dust was getting to Decker.

I began and finished Moon Palace by my favorite author, Paul Auster in 24 hours. It had all the things I enjoy about Auster's work: great prose, the search for identity, and coincedences (I've also become addicted to Lost). This was the first book I took out of the public library here on the west coast. Bonus points if you know why I found this book timely.

I embarked on my first Dostoyevsky novel: his last. I am enjoying the flow of the language and the imagery. I'm less than 100 pages into it, but I'm definetly hooked.

Ciao

The Kid is Alright

My post yesterday was not premature. Alastair and his mommy went to the doctor today and got cleared to keep the brace off. The next time he has to go back is in 4 months for an X-ray. I spread the news at work; everyone was very happy.

I'm glad, but I've gotten so used to the brace that it doesn't seem a big deal. The biggest relief is that our son is improved. Must be the old Boy Scout in me. Always leave the campsite in better shape then when you got there.

Of course I'm relieved that Alastair doesn't need surgeries (for this ailment) and traction. I feel satisfied that my wife and I did our jobs as parents and strapped that harness on every 12 hours.

Let's hope we have the same fortitude when he's 14 and needs help with his math homework.

Cute stuff

Tomorrow, Alastair goes for his next and possible final check up at the orthopedic clinic.

He may get out of his brace for good. For the past 6 weeks, he's been in the brace for 12 hours a day. It makes life much easier. He is floppier without the brace, but easier to change and get in his car seat.

So for posterity, here are some pictures of Alastair.